Talking dirty inflames the brain & produces intense feelings of primal pleasure and desire.
What is it about simple words that give them the power to make us laugh, cry, and even simmer with desire?
Being the communicative creatures that we are, we’re hardwired to respond to verbal cues, and the ideas and emotions we verbally express, can have a significant impact on how our bodies react.
So, if you really want to know why talking dirty during sex has a big impact in the whole act, here are 3 reasons why you need to do it.
- Dirty Talk Fires Up The Brain
The reason for this is that when we listen to someone describing a situation or telling a story, it fires up a part of the brain called the insula, which is related to sensations and emotions. The insula processes the information you hear to produce a similar experience of pleasure, pain, love or joy. So you can imagine what happens when you add an erotic spin to your storytelling.
Take for example the phrase,
“I want to lightly run my tongue around your nipples.” Or, “Fuck me deeper, slower and harder.”
I can bet that most people feel a stir just from reading the words, let alone hearing them spoken out loud.
Because pleasure begins in the brain, verbally expressing your erotic thoughts, fantasies, wants and needs, can be just as arousing for you and your partner as touching. In fact, in some instances, dirty talk can be even more of a turn on.
- #2 Dirty Talk Is Linked To Greater S3xual Satisfaction
A study by Dr. Elizabeth A. Babin, a health communication expert at Cleveland State University, revealed that communication during sex was directly linked to greater sexual satisfaction.
She found that couples who were able to talk about s3x and communicate during sex, reported greater sexual enjoyment than those who clammed up.
- #3 Dirty Talk Connects You Deeper With Your Lover
And that isn’t the only benefit of talking dirty with your partner. Whispering those naughty nothings, plants the seeds of desire, builds sexual tension and allows you to live out your fantasies, which in turn increases confidence and physical and emotional pleasure.
Moreover, dirty talk allows you to connect on a much deeper level of intimacy with your partner.
So why is it that so many of us hold back from asking for what we truly want in the bedroom or telling our partners what turns us on?
Any relationship counselor will tell you that the biggest problem between couples is lack of communication, and this usually arises from fear. When it comes to talking dirty, people are often afraid of being rejected or judged, or worried that they will somehow offend their partner.
“In the end, the only way to overcome a fear is to face it head on.”
Talking dirty can be an incredibly liberating and rewarding experience, but like all intimate interactions, it should be undertaken with honesty and integrity.