After a break up there are usually two scenarios. One, you both part ways and never speak to each other again and two, your ex suggests that you remain as friends. When the second option occurs its normal to wonder why your ex still wants to be friends, especially if they are the one who ended the relationship in the first place. Sometimes it’s great to be friends, but if either of you still care for the other, such a proposition can give them false hope and in the end cause a lot of harm to them.
1. They want to let go of you gradually
Some people want to be friends so that they can let go of you gradually. Chances are they do not want to lose you at once, so they put themselves in a position where they can let go of you little by little.
2. They think it is a gentler way to end the relationship
Some people may not have any selfish reasons for wanting to be friends after a break up. Your ex may want to remain friends when they see you are hurting. Maybe they had a hard time deciding to end the relationship and feel even worse because they hurt you.
3. They think it will make life easier
Another possible reason that your ex still want to be friends is, they think both of your lives will be much easier or less awkward. This can be true especially if both of you share the same friends, work in the same place and tend to collide in the same spots.
4. They are still in love with you
It is common for an ex to wish to be your friend because he or she still loves you.
5. Wants to be friends with benefits
Sometimes your ex just wants to have a physical relationship with you, without having to subject to any commitment. Do not fall into such a friendships especially after a breakup. You will just end up feeling used. If your ex truly cares about you, then friendship should be just that and not accompanied with benefits.