“Its really amazing how ladies fear the possibility of remaining unmarried for a long time, stretching into their late twenties and thirties.
I have seen countless number of Nigerian spinsters visit many prayer houses to seek spiritual guide and advice just to be a Mrs, and while so many will quickly come out to say they are unperturbed, the truth is that deep inside of them they hope that they just find the “right man” fast enough and start raising a family before reaching their age of menopause.
Many ladies do not need prayer and fasting and in most cases there is no spiritual attack from anywhere but these ladies are their own pitfalls, and the simple truth is that 90% of unmarried ladies in their late 20s and 30s have no business still remaining single.
Considering the present global socio-economy situations especially in a country like ours, here are 5 very vital questions to ask yourself as a lady and the more you give a NO to each of these 5 questions the harder it may be for you to get a man to marry you.
1. Can you start a life with a man in one room a.k.a FACE ME I FACE YOU?: Many ladies have boyfriends who live in this type of apartment and in fact they have spent some nights with him in that same one room apartment and the guy has lost count of how many times he has scr*wd you in any imaginable ways, but when it comes to marriage you will foolishly say you can’t marry into one room apartment.
Sorry is your second name and i strongly pity you. Most men who own mansions today started their lives in one room so if you are ok being scr*wd in one room but you can not marry same man living in one room then you are not only clueless, but foolish and be ready to be dumped after he has really had you to his fullness.
2. Can you marry a struggling man who has no regular job?: Oh i can imagine some ladies answering “LAI! LAI!,MBA NUNU! GOD FORBID!” and so on to this particular question, but please let me ask you “why date a struggling guy or allow him screw you at will yet can’t marry him?” Strange and foolish i must say.
It is important to know that as long as that man is not lazy, his breakthrough will come and must come. How many ladies have given up an affair because they feel the guy has no job just to realize a year later that he is gainfully employed or he has started a profitable business, and they start feeling bad for not being patient enough.
Okay what is even the guaranty that the ones who have good jobs or business can not experience a crazy turn around? Many ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who has a job rather than for them to also find something doing that will make them financially independent, while the guy has enough space to pursue his dreams. Believe it or not 95% of the rich or successful guys you see today have passed through a struggling phase.
3. Can you have a very low budget wedding?: Now i want every reasonable lady reading this to understand that marital union and marriage ceremony are two different things.
Most times when you hear words like “my guy is not ready yet for marriage” what this simply implies is that the guy is NOT READY FOR A BIG MARRIAGE CEREMONY and not that he is not mentally, psychologically and emotionally ready but because our young ladies are overwhelmed with that one day celebration, they will never ever plan any wedding with a man who does not have the money to give them a flamboyant wedding, and this is one of the major reasons why many ladies remain single for a very long time.
Have you looked around to see many graduates still struggling in their 30s with no assurance that a job or business will come up tomorrow? Are you among the myopic ladies who get carried away by a flamboyant wedding ceremony rich parents organize for their children?
Who says you can’t have a marriage ceremony with N50,000 budget where a man pays the bride price and proceed to the registry with you, and when the money starts coming in you two can do another big time wedding ceremony so why put yourself in bondage of having a compulsory big time wedding before you can be a Mrs? Why are you giving that guy a good reason to continue using you, saying he is not ready for marriage ceremony but doing all the imaginable things a man will do to a wife on you?
For my igbo sisters i will advice you to appeal to the elders at home to understand that the fact that few of you are lucky to have a guy pay so much or spend so much on a marriage ceremony against all odds does not erase the fact that countless number of Igbo girls are been courted but not married in a timely manner due to the high expenses involved.
4. Can you marry a man who loves you but is not your preferred spec?: Yes there is nothing absolutely wrong in having a picture of who you want and while some ladies are very fortunate to find such. Many have lived in a fantasy world hoping to meet that man who has those qualities they dream of just to wait and wait until they become old waiting for an “ideal man”
In marriage there is nothing like a bad or good choice, neither do we have an ideal or non-ideal man but its about your choice. Many ladies want a tall, cute, rich, GOD fearing, romantic guy and its so amazing how some ladies will never shift ground, and when that short caring and loving guy comes their way they hush him and start running after a prince charming that feels nada for them. What a shame!
Stop having this myopic belief that there is an ideal man out there; no man has it all and all you need to look out for is a man who truly desires and deserves you. If you like keep waiting and screening until you become the object of screening yourself. Be wise.
5. Can you marry a man with a wide age gap with you?: This is one of the most dangerous mistakes many ladies make. For crying out loud, except a lady just wants to play around, i do not see why a teenage girl will be dating a fellow teenager, or a lady in her early twenties will be dating a guy of just a year or two older than her, because when she eventually becomes ripe for marriage, in most cases this guy is still jumping around and fulfilling his sexual fantasies.
Yes age is nothing but a number but in most cases, ladies who date or court guys with wide age gaps like 8years or more tend to end up as a wife to the guy while most ladies who at their young ages started an affair with guys of close age proximity are usually left heart broken later in life, because most guys in the 20s are probably still playing around and not even psychologically ready for marital union.
So when i hear a 23 year old lady telling a guy in his 30s that he is too old for her i just laugh at her ignorance. If you are a teenager reading this or a lady in your early twenties, i will advice that except you just want to play around, you should date or court guys with wide age gap to avoid ‘had i known’.
YES THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS to this but most times my assertion holds true.
I hope these write up makes sense to those who want to see sense in it.”